Best laid plans…

Well, I didn’t make it to the Grad School Fair. My son got sick that day and stayed home.

If anyone went, I’d love to hear from you!

I’ve started the process of getting my application processes organized. Yes, I’m a dork- I’ve created a spreadsheet. Two actually. One I’m using to compare PhD programs, and the other to keep track of my application packets. There are so many components to each application – GRE scores, resumes, references, transcripts,…. oh, and don’t forget the moolah! At $50+ a pop, its expensive to apply to very many schools!

That’s why I created the spreadsheet to compare programs – I can’t afford to apply to every program that catches my eye (if that were the case I’d need an “Apply To All” button on Petersons.com!)

Things I’m looking at when comparing programs: faculty research interest, financial incentive (tuition remission, stipend, etc), teaching opportunities, relationship with other departments (my interests lie at an intersection of communication, sociology, anthropology, and international development – I want to make sure I can move between these departments as needed).

There’s also the logistical stuff- like how far away is it? Would I have to drive, or could I take public transportation? Those kinds of things…

So I’m hoping to narrow it down to 3, although I’d love to apply to more. We’ll see. Maybe I can ask for application money for Christmas!

I know, I’m a dork!

Thesis, check! What’s Next?

Thesis: check!

So I finally turned in my MA thesis…and after a few weeks of waiting and pestering my adviser, I got a grade and credit! I am now officially DONE!

I’m not sure how it turned out – my adviser gave NO feedback, and truth be told, I’m not even sure he read it. I’m relieved to get it done, but I’d really like to get some feedback on it. I had hoped to submit it to a conferenc or a journal, but would like to know if that would be a good thing, or whether I’d just embarass myself!

One thing I realized as I finished it up – I really love doing this! I love research, I love writing….once I get past the rut that blocked me for the first few weeks of summer. In hindsight I wish I had been more proactive about either getting more from my adviser or finding a new one.  We didn’t have a bad working relationship….we just had no relationship whatsoever. In the end I learned a lot on my own, but I think I’d feel more confident about my work if I’d had more direction.

But, all of that is in the past- now to look towards the future. For the moment I’m looking for work, but I am definitely going to continue on to pursue my PhD. I knew it was something I wanted to do while I was in school, and I confirm it ever day that I’m not in school!

I have a few schools in mind and will start assembling the applications this week. Last year I applied to one school, and filled everything out at the last minute. It was stressful and I didn’t get in. So this year I’m NOT going to procrastinate!

The first thing I’m going to do is go to the Idealist Grad School Fair tomorrow! These fairs go on throughout the country, and tomorrow, Sept 21 it will be in Washington DC!

If you are the least bit interested in grad school, especially for studying topics related to public service, you HAVE to go! Check this out-

If you’re going, let me know! See you there!!!

The hardest semester…

Hello! I’m back!

Last time I wrote I was trying to narrow down a thesis topic. Now, six months and four classes later, I’m finally posting again!

This has been by far the hardest semester I’ve had. In order to finish in time, I had to take four classes. In hindsight, I think that was a mistake….I should have just taken a class in the summer and graduated late. Instead I nearly killed myself trying to squeeze it all in!

One thing that made this semester so difficult was that all three kids got involved in spring sports! That’s right- baseball, soccer and track! We had practices almost every day of the week, and games on the weekends! By the time time the kids went to bed, I was exhausted! I would stay up to study, but I wasn’t very productive.

If I had it to do over again, I would have taken my normal load (3 classes) and gone to bed earlier.

That being said, I did LOVE my classes – especially Cross Cultural Communications. I did finally figure out a thesis topic, but I ended up getting an extension, so I’m still working on it!!

I technically have until the end of the summer to get it finished, but the kids get out of school next week, so I’m really trying to get it all wrapped up then.

Speaking of which, I should really get back to work!

More soon!

Could the family handle it?

I’m currently taking a Cross Cultural Communications class – and I’m loving it! I’ve been looking forward to this course for a long time – ever since I attended (and live blogged from) the Intercultural Managment Institute’s annual conference.  Dr. Gary Weaver, the Executive Director of IMI, teaches the course.

I’ll probably post quite a bit of what I’m learning and studying on my other blog, but something in lecture the other day really struck me.

I’ve always thought about living and working overseas, or at the very least spending considerable time abroad doing field work.  I’ve felt pretty confident that I could adapt and handle living in a different culture, but I’ve often wondered how the family would handle it – after all, they haven’t been pining for this all their lives like I have!

So when Professor Weaver said that the most common reason for early return (of American employees working overseas) is an unhappy spouse, I had to pause. So how can you know if the fam could handle it?

It turns out there is a cluster of personality traits that correlate to failure to adapt to another culture. These are in no way predictive, but are generally reliable. (Also, it should be noted that we don’t know which personality traits correlate with success.)

1. High uncertainty avoidance – this person is generally well organized, comfortable with people who give direct answers, and sees the life as something that can be scheduled.
2. Overly task oriented – this person has a high need for individual achievement
3. Overly close minded – everyone is closed minded to a certain extent. But there is a difference between being parochial (not realizing there are alternative ways of doing things) and being ethnocentric (thinking your way is the best and only way!)

Now, this isn’t rocket science, but I found it very interesting to have it spelled out like this.

Another characteristic? Being a teenager. Pre-adolescents are MUCH better at adapting to another culture than teenagers.

Guess I’d better get busy – just 3 more years until my oldest hits the teens!!!

No such thing as a typical week

Today I realized something that has probably been glaring me in the face for a long time.

Display of iCal screenshot

I always plan for the typical week. My schedule, beautifully laid out in multicolored iCal goodness, never includes things like getting sick, emergency room visits, or neighbors stopping by. So we have to leave a little margin in our life to accommodate. That I get.

But I am able to plan ahead for some things  that have equally destructive powers- going out of town, the kids having days off from school when I don’t, out of town guests, etc. I can arrange childcare, make meals ahead, or other logistical considerations. It seems like I’m in control.

But, no.

Our routines can’t handle it. They get thrown out of whack. And routines, I’ve discovered are the difference between a household that hums, or one that screeches to a stop!

Any parent of an infant knows routines are key. And I’ve certainly heard many arguments in agreement (from classroom management experts to the FlyLady herself!).

The battle of a family routine

But I’ve always thought of them as part of the typical week. But now, despite several attempts to ‘reset,’  I realize there might be one or two weeks one our calendar that look “typical” – every other week has a visitor, a concert, a trip, or something that could throw things off.

So this semester, I’m going to try to really focus on routines. Especially for the children. Its not rocket science, I know, but I think we’ve been approaching it all wrong.

Some considerations:

- make sure hubby and I are on the same page

- make sure the kids understand what is expected (even on non-school days)

- make sure I know what I expect out of myself, and what hubby expects from himself

- others?

Thesis envy

This semester I have my thesis, or capstone project.

I’ve been looking forward to this since I enrolled in grad school almost 2 years ago. But now, I’m drawing a blank! I have no idea what I want to write about.

Well, I should clarify – I have no idea which, among many ideas, I want to choose. I’m a big research dork- I LOVE research. And I’m looking forward to working on a big project such as this, but I’m having commitment issues. How do I know if this topic is what I want to spend the entire semester on? As opposed to that one?

Which would be the best use of my time? Should I focus on something out of pure interest, or something that is a little more marketable for future employers?

It seems like everyone else in my cohort not only already knows what they want to do, they’ve got half of their lit reviews done!

Decisions, decisions….

The first day of my last semester

Today was the first day of classes for the spring semester – it will be my last, and hardest semester! My courseload is usually 3 courses per semester, including summer. But since one of my classes was canceled last summer, I’m having to take four this spring in order to finish in time.

The break between semesters was nice. I didn’t do any academic work (or blog posting!). I wasn’t sure if I should try to get ahead on reading or just concentrate on relaxing. In the end, I’m glad I took the time to fully recharge.

Photo of Mr. Bento lunch thermos

I’m very excited about some of my Christmas presents! I asked for a rice cooker (which I’ve already used a billion times!) and a Mr. Bento lunch thermos. One of my goals this semester is to spend less money on food while I’m on campus. I was so excited to use my new toy this morning- packed myself a FABULOUS lunch of leftover Tunisian Eggplant and Chickpea Stew, along with some rice, yogurt, and blueberries…..mmmm! But, in the morning rush, I left it at home. So, I guess I’ll have to start on that goal tomorrow!

My classes this semester are on Mondays and Tuesdays, which also happen to be the busiest days for our family- wrestling, basketball and play practice all fall on these days. It was a challenge enough to manage it all when I wasn’t in class. Now, my husband will have to manage it all himself!

Planning ahead the night before is going to be key. Because I have a morning class on Mondays, I have to be ready to leave as soon as the kids are on the bus. That means I’ve got to get up and dressed, make the kids lunches, my lunch, put dinner in the crock pot and the clean up the mess from all that cooking BEFORE the 8am. (I guess I’ve gotten a little spoiled to doing all of that after I put the kids on the bus.)

On Mondays I’ll get home at about the same time as my husband and the kids (after wrestling practice). There will be just enough time to eat dinner, make sure the kids’ homework is done, then put them to bed. Tuesdays is going to be the real challenge for my husband. After work he’ll have to pick up one kid at play practice, then go across town to get the other 2 from after-school program, then take everyone off to basketball practice! There won’t be enough time (because of traffic) to go home and get dinner, so I’ll be packing dinners on Tuesday mornings!

So my mornings will involve a lot of food prep- I’m collecting portable dinner ideas if anyone has any!

Shifting gears

At last, my finals are over, papers turned in, and now I can settle in for some nice warm family time. Its been a whirlwind over the past few weeks trying to stay sane while writing, studying, de-lousing, baking, and everything else that comes at the end of the year. I’ve been done with classes for about a week now, and I’ve spent every moment catching up with holiday preparations. Its been nice to focus on other things for a while, but I’ve had a hard time changing my routine. I still stay up late- I just can’t quite make myself go to bed early. And its been a little stressful getting all the presents bought, wrapped, and shipped (I actually haven’t shipped any yet- guess my family will have some presents to open after Christmas!) I spent today making out a grocery list and tomorrow will spend most of the day baking and cleaning. (In-laws are coming!)

But despite all the items on my to do list, I’ve had a lot of fun with the kids. My daughter had a ‘decorate the gingerbread house’ party in her kindergarten class, and the boys both have parties on Tuesday (can you believe theyre in school until the 23rd?).

And so, for now I’m taking a break from academia. But I don’t think it will be long. Before the end of the semester, I agreed to write an article, and my course load next semester is going to be really big, so I’m thinking I should try to get some reading done while I have some extra time.

Who am I kidding? Extra time? I still have to wrap presents, bake dozen more cookies and plan Christmas Eve dinner!

Maybe after Christmas….

Happy Holidays!!

My Black Friday purchase

Last Friday morning I found myself standing outside of an Ohio Best Buy with my mother in law, waiting with a couple hundred other bargain hunters.

But, I have to admit, I wasn’t looking for gifts for family and friends. I was shopping for me! I got a new monitor for my computer.

I have a laptop, but I have recently become a HUGE fan of having a second monitor.

I first saw this being done when I had my fellowship last spring. Then over the summer I watched the “Last Lecture” by professor Randy Pausch, and he recommended the technique too. I’d heard about how much it helped people in their work (anywhere from 9-50% more efficient!), and since time is something I don’t have a lot of, I decided to give it a try (the Black Friday half off price didn’t hurt- $99 for a 19′ LCD flatscreen!).

And now that I’m back home and have had it plugged in for a full 24 hours, I’m hooked!

I keep my calendar and to-do list open and available. And I can have several windows open at the same time AND be able to see and read them! Kicks butt on lit reviews – I can keep articles open on one screen while writing about them on another. I can write blog posts on once screen and use the other to look up useful links, like this one.

So, if you haven’t made out your wish list yet, I recommend adding a monitor to the list. There are lots of guides online for how to add one. I use a Mac laptop, and all I had to do was plug it in. Depending on your operating system, there may be a few other things you need to do.

So, I’m off. My efficient self needs to get some writing done. Last week of classes this week!!!

Of Lice and Men

This week has been a booger.

As the semester end nears, the papers and projects that are due increasingly overwhelming. I’ve actually done a decent job of staying on top of things. I’ve finished one group project WAY ahead of schedule (which feels great!) and I’ve started the other three that are all due within three weeks.

But the problem is, in those three weeks I’ve got Thanksgiving, my son’s colonial day (in which he needs a costume), volunteering my my daughter’s art class, and I’m sure two or three other things that I’ve forgotten about.

So it seems that every couple of hours for the next several days are scheduled – I’ve marked out times to work on papers, and times to be with family. And that schedule is tight!

That’s why Sunday night when we discovered our three precious angels had caught head lice, I lost it! Actually, Sunday I was fine. Ran to the store, got the kit, sat the boys down in front of a movie and got to work. If you’ve never done it, it is a pain in the @$$.

I went to bed tired, disappointed that I hadn’t been able to work on a paper, but glad the ordeal was over.

But then yesterday afternoon I got a call from my daughter’s day care, and yes, sweet baby number three had the creepy crawlies. AAGGGH! That afternoon was my last chance to get any progress made on 2 lit reviews! But instead I spent the next couple of hours doing nit reviews!!! (Ha- at least now I can make lice jokes!)

I was so frustrated and overwhelmed, I just cried.

But like any other mother, I pulled myself together and got it done. The bet part was, that evening my husband came home with a bouquet of roses. I guess he knew how frustrated I was and this was his way of being encouraging (and probably thanking me for being the one to be on bug patrol)

So Thanksgiving will have a few little twists – I’ll be watching the kids for itching, and doing a follow up treatment, AND hopefully, writing a couple of papers.

There’s always something….!